Nearly seven percent of Spain's population is 65 or older, and in 25 years elderly people will make up a third of the total, says Inserso, an association that aims to help retired people. The data reflect the relentless graying of Spanish society, and highlight the needs of a growing number of people who cannot take care of themselves. Herein lies the figure of the family as carer, which makes up for a lack of geriatric facilities and care for their loved ones through commitment and good will. But this scenario takes it toll, especially if it goes on for a long time. Don't forget that some people spend years dedicated exclusively to a relative with Alzheimer's disease, to cite just one example.

How do we make sure the carer looks after himself or herself? How do we ease their burden and reduce the anxiety it causes? The first step is to seek help and not become a martyr who tries to withstand, all alone, whatever may come down the path. It is essential to set limits when taking on responsibility for caring for an older person, and delegate tasks without feeling guilty. There are associations of families with similar problems and social aid programs which you should not hesitate to turn to. They can advise you and give psychological support when the going gets particularly rough. The same can be said of professional caretakers. They are a perfectly legitimate option, and a necessary one for sharing out care tasks. Another option is to turn to the rest of the sick or elderly person's family to help out.

Another important point is to learn how the illness is expected to play itself out. This will help you anticipate problems, be ready for them when they emerge and institute changes in care smoothly without last-minute distress. Everyone in the family should know what they are up against, and solutions should be decided on jointly, from taking turns at caring for the patient to how much money to chip in. If conflicts arise you can resort to a mediator who will encourage exchange of opinions and guide the decision-making process.

Through all of this the caretr will experience moments of sadness and desperation, moments in which he or she feels physically and psychologically exhausted. This is usually caused by a lack of contact with other people, putting a career on hold, inability to tend properly to children and spouse and having no time for oneself. To fight this, you must remain active, get exercise and be tolerant with oneself.

Another key point is to know how to manage your time, draw up an activity plan and don't try to do more than you can. Superman and superwoman are a thing of comic books. This way you will avoid frustration and guilt. At the same time it is best not to muzzle moments of anger. It's best to speak your mind and talk about what hurts and irritates you. Get away briefly from whatever situation is causing so much distress. Indeed, you may need to take a rest from time to time.

It is fundamental for the carer to take care of themselves and look after the problems that arise while taking care of an elderly person. They often include migraines, loss of appetite, pain, insomnia, emotional stress, anxiety and depression. Don't ignore any of these symptoms. Contact a professional whey they appear because it is pointless for a carer to ignore their own needs. It won't help them or the person they are supposed to be taking care of.